Mend Your Broken Heart

I’m no stranger to heartbreak. After one divorce and several breakups, I know how terrible a failed romance can feel. Like a heart attack, there’s pain, shortness of breath, regret for not heeding the warning signs, and ultimately, a long road back to recovery.

A healthy heart allows you to thrive because it sustains your body with proper blood flow, delivering nutrients that nourish every cell and organ every minute of every day. A healthy emotional heart allows you to stay open to romance. Both are necessary for you to shine.

After my divorce, eager to mend my broken heart, I sat with a notebook and sketched out exactly what I wanted my life to look like, and what I hoped to find in a future mate. This list gave me solace because it gave me direction. Rather than falling victim to my feelings, I was inspired by my potential future. Instead of cowering in fear, I tossed out hope and then, taking one step at a time, I walked my way into a life that suits me far better than the married life I was living. While my ex continues to be one of my very best friends, we both agree we are better off apart.

A broken heart can be a catalyst for change in how you operate your romantic life, much like surviving a heart attack can be a wake-up call to the fact that you need to change the way you treat your body. Both events may lead to soul searching, helping you find a path that will keep you from ever experiencing that sort of pain or heartache again. Often times in relationships, there were signs letting you know that the one you’re with is not the one that’s right, and had you heeded them, you’d likely save yourself months, or years of grief. The same is true of your heart.

I meet many people who’ve been diagnosed with high blood pressure, elevated cholesterol levels or type 2 diabetes, all harbingers that their heart is under duress. Rather than looking at these symptoms as warning signs of potential danger and taking stock of their habits, they instead take the easy road to management by taking meds. Like a trip to Paris to save a failing romance, it’s akin to putting a band-aid on a deep wound. Taking meds without changing your eating and lifestyle habits will likely lead to more meds and ultimately more dis-ease.

Your heart is the most important organ for your immediate survival. If it shuts down or short circuits, you may not have a second chance to map out your rehabilitation. Yet the heart is resilient. If you give it the nourishment it needs to thrive, it will respond in kind. Just like in love, the more you give, the more you get.

February was heart health month and I hope that you have learned how you can manage your blood pressure, cholesterol and other risk factors in order to have a vibrantly healthy heart that will help you prosper in life and love. A few key changes to your diet or lifestyle might be just the thing you need in order to maintain its health and integrity.

Your body’s language is expressed in its vitality or its symptoms, much like the intuitive hits that inform you whether a lover is right for you. The question is, will you heed it? If your heart is speaking to you in either way, I encourage you to listen.

I would love to hear your thoughts and experiences on how nutritious food has helped you heal through physical or emotional heartache. Let me know in the comment section below.

Chocolate Covered Strawberries

To accompany today’s food for thought, here is one of my favorite heart-healthy recipes from the archives — nutrition packed in delicious and beautiful bite sized treats!

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12 comments on “Mend Your Broken Heart

  1. AvatarTimi

    Hi Barbara – I recently discovered you on You Tube. Appreciate the nutrition information you present in a clear and scientific fashion and with warmth and generosity. Thank you for your support to those of us wanting to live healthy, vibrant lives through whole foods. Your recipes look delicious and will be trying them soon.


  2. AvatarIraida Mendez

    What a great blog!. You are so wise, and so smart and so beautiful!. I am so proud to be your mother. You have surpassed all our expectations! Keep loving and keep living!. MOM

  3. AvatarChris Cariglio

    Hi Barbara,

    All your articles this month have been made for me, as I suffer from high both cholesterol and high blood pressure, among other health issues, so thank you for making your videos and blogs. I am following your good advice from the first time I saw one of your videos on juicing.

    I will admit to being one of those who did not pay attention to my body giving me many signals a long time before I took notice.


  4. AvatarGen Stoker

    Hi Barbara! What a great blog! I think if we are lucky, time gives us the wisdom to know we really do need to protect our heart with good nutrients and loving care. I’ve been lucky enough to avoid any major heartache physically up until now, but I can’t say the same emotionally! Oh well, it is better to have loved and lost, they say 🙂 Thanks for always providing such sound advice. I follow your blog every week and am so much better for it. Gen

  5. AvatarJessica

    Hi Barbara! I absolutely love your blog! It’s funny how things surface at the perfect time… In my meditation this morning, I started to cry because my impending break-up that is on the horizon started to become very real and very present. The sun is setting on my 6-year relationship and I’ve been putting off the inevitable to spare myself the heartache. But it’s time to face the music! I really needed this article today! Thank you. Believe it or not, dark (vegan) chocolate has been a healing food for me in times of heartache and despair. It gives my serotonin a little pep-talk and is very comforting, in moderation of course. Another deeply healing food for me has been kitchari. The physical cleansing properties of a kitchari cleanse are what first drew me to this Ayurvedic practice, but I did not expect the emotional healing that came with it. The soft, warm, gently spiced kitchari feels like a hug from the inside! It’s seems to offer a grounding and centering sensation while at the same time, releasing my grip on things that don’t serve me (like coffee, sweets, toxic people!?). It really is amazing what food can do and I’ve learned so much from your articles over the years. Keep ’em coming!

    1. AvatarBarbara Mendez R.Ph. M.S. Post author

      Thanks for your comment Jessica! I’m sorry to hear that these are sad times for you but I also know that in time, you will be happier and better off than being in a relationship that is not satisfying. And eating well as you go through it is so important! I ate tons of walnuts and miso-tahini sauces on pasta while I was going through my divorce and it helped enormously. I just love kitcheri too! Try to make it at least once a winter.

      Thanks again for posting and for your honesty~ Wishing you a lot of peace~


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